It’s so funny, when I was a few months pregnant and starting to wrap my mind around what being a mother would mean – one thing that crossed my mind was: Susan Sontag was a single mother – how did she handle that?
That probably sounds weird but she is one of those people who crosses my mind from time to time so it wasn’t a strange thing to think about – though I never thought about saying it aloud to anyone. I should probably start saying some of this stuff because other people are thinking it too – one morning I accidentally came across her short list of advice on the Parenting magazine website:
- Be consistent.
- Don’t speak about him to others (e.g., tell funny things) in his presence. (Don’t make him self-conscious.)
- Don’t praise him for something I wouldn’t always accept as good.
- Don’t reprimand him harshly for something he’s been allowed to do.
- Daily routine: eating, homework, bath, teeth, room, story, bed.
- Don’t allow him to monopolize me when I am with other people.
- Always speak well of his pop. (No faces, sighs, impatience, etc.)
- Do not discourage childish fantasies.
- Make him aware that there is a grown-up world that’s none of his business.
- Don’t assume that what I don’t like to do (bath, hairwash) he won’t like either.